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Married to a wimp

If we asked 100 wives, "Are you married to a wimp?" how many do you think would say "Yes."

Take a guess.

In my totally unscientific study based on 20 years in marriage counseling, I estimate 99 out of 100 would answer in the affirmative.

The other one would have to consult her lawyer.

From where did this malady arise?

It's easy to blame your in-laws. Mostly because it’s just easy.

But there is a very deep and meaningful reason your hubby’s parents raised a wimp.


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Despite what the Wall Street Journal might tell you, things have never looked bleaker for the top 1% wealthiest people on this planet.

By that I mean you and me.

Take a look at these quadrants:

1) The Rich get Richer

2) The Poor get Richer

3) The Rich get Poorer

4) The Poor get Poorer

One of them is not true.

Do rich people make bad parents?
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It’s your son’s sixteenth birthday and he is expecting a car.

Why is he expecting a car?
Because since his fifteenth birthday he's been telling you there is only one kid in his grade who didn’t get a brand new car and his father is making license plates for the federal authorities.
So let’s examine the choices in front of you:

Option a) Buy him the brand new Mustang – bright yellow – that he’s been hinting at for the last year.

Option b) Buy him a 10 year old Ford Taurus in faded blue with roll-up windows, no a/c and rusted windshield wipers. Tell him if he wants the Mustang, he needs to work over the summer and you will match him $-for-$.

Option c) Get him the same thing your father got you, a pat on the back and some ideas for a weekend job so he can save up for the 10 year old Taurus.

For those who don’t have the finances to avail yourself of these choices you will probably fail to appreciate how difficult it really is. So let me spell out for you what goes through the mind of a rich dad as he thinks about each of those options:

Option a)  New Yellow Mustang:
I’ll be lucky if the only thing in two pieces by his 17th birthday is the car. Do you want me to tell you about all the rich kids who are now paraplegics because they got a car like this?

Option b)  10 Year Old Ford Taurus:
My son is going to get very depressed. He’ll be incredibly embarrassed that all his friends have fancy cars. His friends will make fun of him to no end. He’s going to think I hate him and he’s going to start hanging with the kids who drive this kind of car, like the one whose father is making arts-and-crafts for the State of Florida. Those kids don’t take school seriously, many are taking drugs and most drop out of school. And if you think I am exaggerating, that’s what his school counselor told me!

Option c)  Car Wash:
My neighbor did that with his kid three years ago. On the way home from work his son was mugged. He’s now blind in one eye and has a phobia about leaving the house, which he can only do if he’s seriously medicated.

Of course, any one of them could be the choice that makes the boy into a man, but which one? It’s so easy to pick, but if you pick the wrong one you will never forget it.

Having met a significant number of these parents who now live with the knowledge that they picked the wrong option, I can attest to the fact you will never forget making the wrong choice.

Alternatively, the poor parent has an easy choice. In fact he or she doesn’t really have any choice at all. It’s the son who has the choice, and it’s real simple and real clear: grow up or be bitter.

Ok, so what’s a rich father or mother to do?