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  • Married to a Water Mark

    Very few marriages can escape the nagging feeling that this was a lot more fun before we were married. 

    It's not that anyone has changed, it's quite simply that when we were dating we ignored the bad stuff, and judged our intended on the basis of their best behavior so far. So when junk happens, that high water mark comes to mind, and we overlook the fact his mother drives us crazy.

    It's an easy theory to test, just point out to any engaged girl that his socks don't match, or boy that she is always on the phone, and both will say, "Yes, but they make me laugh, or they are so smart, or they know how to field-dress a moose."

    After marriage however, the space-time continuum gets messed up and we inverse ourselves.

    Now, we judge our spouse on the basis of their worst behavior. Now, anything good is dismissed and whatever negative incident is the new high water mark. No matter that the incident happened last week or 10 years ago.

    You, of course, don't need to test this out, just yesterday you did three noble deeds for your spouse and their gratitude couldn't get to the second sentence without mentioning the afore mentioned incident.

    Of course, I would be remiss if I didn't point out that you do the same thing.

    There are 3 conclusions you could draw:

    1)  You married the wrong person.

    2)  You were young and naive and now you are seasoned and wise.

    3)  It's time to get a new water mark.

    The right answer is 3 (obviously!)

     

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  • The Hardest Lesson

     

    Chinese seems pretty complicated, but then again, not all of the 1.3 billion Chinese are geniuses, so it can’t be that hard. Calculus is, of course no breeze, and Sergei Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto No. 3 is, they say, really tough, but I can’t speak from experience. And, of course, I doubt I could master the harp, even if I had a long weekend to practice.

    Of all the concepts people need to know in life, what would you say is the hardest to teach?

    Maybe take some time to think about it before you read my answer, but to give you a little clue, the hardest lesson is also the most meaningful.

    The truth is, the hardest lesson in life is just as hard for the dummy as for the highly intelligent. For this, genius doesn’t help.

    The most meaningful lesson in life, which is also the hardest to teach, is to be a giver. Parents, teachers, community leaders, politicians and even rabbis have struggled with their inability to pass along this most critical lesson for living.

    Madison Avenue, with its million-dollar budgets, struggles to induce more people to give more presents. It’s a tough job, but someone’s got to do it.

    A person who cannot give, cannot make commitments. A commitment means someone else is important. For the same reason, a person who cannot give cannot have friends. A person who cannot give will be alone and isolated. Loneliness is a very sorry predicament, mostly because it’s self-inflicted.

    And despite this misery, tell a lonely person the cure is to give a few coins to some homeless people, volunteer at a soup kitchen or even have other lonely people over for dinner on a regular basis, and you might as well pull out a harp.

    Telling people to give is like talking to a brick wall in the middle of the Sahara desert at high noon. Neither shade nor breeze does the wall bequeath. Such is a taker’s contribution to the world. 

    I guess it’s at this point you are expecting me to break this curse. And I do hate to disappoint, so I will quote the Talmud.

    The Talmud tells the story of an elderly man planting a carob tree. Even though the carob only produces fruit after 70 years and this man would not be alive to enjoy it’s fruit, nevertheless he explains, “I myself found fully grown carob trees in the world; as my forebears planted for me, so am I planting for my children.” (Ta’anis 23a).

    “The yearning for planting trees comes from the desire to bestow kindness to the future generations. This is most powerfully manifest in the carob tree.” – Rav A.Y. Kook

    Why a carob? Can’t this same goal be achieved through an apple or pear. Why did he give his descendents a carob tree?

    Isn’t the answer that his ancestors gave him something far more valuable than lunch. It wasn’t just fruit to eat, but the ability to give?

    To plant an orange tree is for yourself, but to plant a carob is solely for others. And similarly, isn't he giving his children something far moremeaningful than a snack, but also giving them the gift of giving.

    To give people something they will enjoy is very generous. But to give people something that they can give, is divine.

    The more we share what we have, the more we value what we get.

    If you have benefited from the lessons and concepts of Aish HaTorah, you will enjoy them even more if you share those lessons. An apple or pear can only be eaten once, but Torah, just like the carob tree, is sweeter when you give it to other people.

    The father of Rav Noah Weinberg tz'l explains a famous Talmudic statement, "I learned more from my students than I did from my teachers," even though those teachers were absolute giants in wisdom, he nevertheless got more than even they could teach him, through the process of giving what he had received.

    Please take a moment to give a little so we can give a lot to so many others. Click here -- Thank you!

    Rabbi Stephen Baars
     
     
     
                        
     
     
     

     

  • UNICEF to the rescue

    I recently did a Google search: United Nations Child Abuse.

    Why?

    How many times can you tell your kids, "If you really think this is abuse, write to the United Nations?"

    I mean, you can't expect them to actually do anything! Maybe if I help them fill in the forms they could get refugee status on some Caribbean island.

    Therefore, I am pleased to tell you my labors paid off, and I found the UNICEF web site. These are the people who "really care" and, as their heading states: 

    CHILD PROTECTION FROM VIOLENCE, EXPLOITATION AND ABUSE 

    Perfect.

    However, as far as I can tell there's no place to report that you are being abused. How ridiculous is that!

    The cynical side in me would say that if you have access to a computer, you can't be doing that bad. But that would not be the sympathetic dad I want to project to my kids.

    So, after scrolling through categories of abuses, like children in war-torn countries battling the ravages of abject poverty and disease, not to mention child trafficking, I couldn't find anything that fit the struggles my kids are plagued with like not having the latest i-gadget.

    The point of all this is actually more reflective than my tone might suggest...

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