How many of these statements are true?
I eat more than I should.
I get angry more than I would like.
I don’t work out as often as I need to.
I waste more time than I care to keep track of.
If any of these are familiar to you, then you can well appreciate how unproductive self-ridicule is.
Beating yourself up over your mistakes, whether verbally or not, is sort of like accidentally hitting your thumb while hammering in a nail. Would you then switch hands and hit the other thumb in revenge?
We think of ourselves as one whole unit not separate parts. As such, our legs are not separate from our stomach any more than one thumb from the other. And even though we sometimes do things that are a little self-destructive, we try to avoid self-abuse.
We may not feel like working out and we may eat a little too much, but we don't see our legs as enemies any more than our stomach is. We are not at war with ourselves, rather we are all on the same team.Read more...
“I have no problems” He replied.
Because of his physical condition he was surrounded by a team of people whose only job was to ensure his happiness. The only thing he could do to live a little dangerously was to not wear a seat-belt, which I am sorry to say, was the very thing that killed him.
The picture on the right is Steph Davis. She’s doing what is called “Free Climbing” or “Free Soloing.” The free doesn’t refer to the cost, it refers to the fact she doesn’t use ropes!
You might be tempted to think it’s crazy, but it’s no different than golf. It’s easy to get to the top with a helicopter, it’s also easy to get the little white ball in the ridiculously small hole. But not if you only use a club.
We don’t want “easy” because “easy” does not make us happy. It makes monkeys happy, but it does nothing for us. In fact, as soon as we reach any stage of equilibrium we will immediately seek a new path of danger.
How many people in the 17th century do you think tried to climb vertical mountains? I mean, it’s not like you need any special equipment to climb a mountain, without special equipment.
Yes, you’ve guessed it, none. Why?
Because they were too busy staving off the black plague or hoping their wives didn’t die in child-birth, or the Russians didn’t invade, or countless other constant and real threats they lived with daily. One would think, and most people did, that when we rid the world of all the existential threats we would achieve peace, tranquility and happiness.
How’s that peace and tranquility working for you?
If we don’t have real threats, we commission them.
Think about the entertainment and news we surround ourselves with. It’s all stories of problems and disasters. We need to surround ourselves with conflict. The bigger the disaster the more prominent the headline. Why? Because we need the excitement of problems to make us feel alive. In fact, it’s so natural to us, we don’t think it’s odd. But it is odd, relative to the rest of creation, animals just don’t try and make their lives more difficult. They aren’t looking for problems, but we are.
The problem is, that’s what our kids do too!
Most parents' attitude towards social media is akin to holding back a slowly crumbling dam. They would like to stop the flood, but they also know it's a losing battle.
However, I'm here to tell you that social media (if used correctly) can be one of the best parenting tools since Sunday morning cartoons.
Ever since human beings could scratch their heads trying to figure out what their progeny was up to, parents have wished for a daily report on their child's thoughts and actions -- something like the daily security assessment the President gets from the CIA.
Your child may think of Twitter, Facebook, et. al., as the latest cool experience. But for a parent, they are better than satellite pictures over Iran.
The problem parents are facing is they don't know what to do with the information once they've got it. Sounds like the old Chinese proverb of being careful of what you ask for.
Therefore, I present here some practical approaches to the new era of what I call Facebook Parenting.Read more... >
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