Failure loves blame. Success cannot tolerate it. That's because success and blame can't exist in the same person. Whenever wildly successful people talk, Steve Jobs, Warren Buffet, Richard Branson, to name a very few. They all speak in the same basic language that precludes them from using the "B" word. Thus, remove blame and complaining from your office and watch your productivity soar. Blame is appealing because it's easier to blame someone else than to tackle the obstacles they are paid to solve. Therefore if they can blame, they will blame. And if they do blame they won't try. And they will repeat this process wherever they find opportunity. Why work hard to achieve something when they can feel just as good by blaming someone else? It's not difficult to see how much productivity and creativity is being sucked out of your office by the complainers. ------------------------------------ This is a question I recently received: "Good stuff as long as complaints are separated from the facts."
Even though I try really hard not to ask easy questions, if given the choice, which of these three things (apples, oranges, or private jets) would you enjoy the most? Without hacking your Facebook or Twitter accounts, I am here to tell you would enjoy the jet the least. “How does he do that?” I can hear you ask. Sorry, if I tell you I will have to go into the witness protection program for my own security. All kidding aside, no one enjoys a private jet more than an orange. No one. Especially the people who have them. Just because it’s more expensive doesn't make it more fun. If you don't actually own a private jet, let me explain what they are like. Are you sitting down? Good, that’s what a private jet is like but probably not as comfortable. Don’t get me wrong, private jets and flying first class are very nice, but when the plane lands, it lands for all the passengers no matter how far back the seat goes. Let me qualify that….
In a rare moment of praise, Nasrallah, the Secretary-General of Hezbollah, said that the Israelis, "Study their defeat in order to learn from it." He contrasted this to Arab states that, "do not probe, do not ask, do not form inquiry commissions... as if nothing has happened." When one of the world’s most heinous anti-semites comes in praise of the Jews then surely we are fulfilling our mission as a light to the nations. However, this thing that Nasrallah is so googly-eyed over – from where did we Jews learn it? You might say it’s obvious, and it is, once it’s pointed out to you. In fact, it’s so obvious (when it’s pointed out) that someone as vile as Nasrallah cannot hold back his admiration despite his extremely overt hatred of anything Jewish. It’s obvious, but it isn’t natural. What is natural is what many of us do -- hide, deny, ignore, and if that doesn’t help, place at the bottom of our to-do list. Me too. If only Sheikh Hassan Nasrallah understood how wrong he was. We don’t study our defeat to learn from it, we study our defeat to love from it. This is not just the path to success, it’s literally the doorway to G-d. This is the path to sublime bliss, or what we call Holiness. The entrance to the Holy of Holies is through what we did wrong, not what we did right. The great Holiness of Yom Kippur exists in the space we make through our mistakes.
It’s important to clarify here, when I say that Jews are not happy, I don’t mean they are not busy, which is what Jews think is the synonym for happiness. Ask a Jew if he is happy, and he’s going to say, “Of course, look at how much I have going on.”
Like the thousands and hundreds of thousands, I too was shocked by the tragic ending of Leiby Kletzky's young life. Over the last few days there have been articles and letters written, speeches made and tears shed in his honor. Why has this tragedy galvanized so many of us?
If you don’t have any problems in life, then this isn’t going to be of much interest to you. But before you hit the spam button, I would like to point out there are 6 billion people on this planet - give or take a few hundred million - and they all have problems. True, I haven’t met all 6 billion… yet. But I have it from a reliable source, they all have problems. Therefore, all of humanity falls into two basic categories -- those who believe that one day they will be able to live problem free, and those people who have kids. Therefore, I would like to tell you of something that really helped me with my problems (yes, I have them too, kids that is). It will only take a minute or two of your time, so click here for more….
In Judaism we say, a wise person learns from OTHER people’s mistakes. We live in a world where you can find people who have achieved what you think will make you happy – so ask them if it’s true. Because, it’s a fool that has to learn from his own mistakes.
Needy people don’t wake up in the morning singing, “Oh how much fun this is.” Test it out for yourself. Send “Needy People part 1” (click here for the article) to the neediest person you know and they will thank you. Not because you have opened their eyes to their own dysfunction, but rather because they think it’s talking about someone else. Proof of this is you. Now don’t get too bent out of shape, I mean me too. Everyone is a needie to someone else. This leads us to one of the great truths of existence: there’s always someone more needy. It’s like a law of Physics -- somewhere another needy person pops out, and just when you think you’ve got rid of one, another shows up on your doorstop. Don’t you just hate it when that happens? In essence, life presents us with three choices…
Isn't it amazing how everyone finds needy people annoying (except of course the needy people). No matter how good a day you are having, all it takes is one really needy person to suck the life right out of you. Needy people are in a class all to themselves. Even arrogant, rude or self-centered people can have friends -- not the needies. Not even other needy people like them. It's like needies are an antithesis of life itself. Why? Let me try and explain. Every single person on this planet is born to achieve one thing....
No, it’s not hate, anger or even war. It’s not even “no.” And “indifference” isn’t even warm. This word is so bad all you have to do is say it once and it will ruin anything good. It’s so toxic that even a wedding will be turned into a kind of “B” horror flick.