How much is it worth to you to not worry?Given the choice, would you rather spend a weekend learning how to be happy or learning how to not worry?I know a lot of people would say, "If I didn't worry I would be happy."But that is just not true. Lack of worry is nice, but it won't give you the warm and fuzzies. For that, you need the real thing: joy.A big reason we don't have balance in our lives is we spend an inordinate amount of time trying to relieve ourselves of worry. This is, at best, a shallow stand-in for enjoying life. BALANCEI'm all for long, hot baths and jogs around the park, but when all is said and done, balance is not achieved through either of these. Don't get me wrong, we need to do things that relieve stress, but we also need to do things to increase joy. This is the real meaning of balance. Balance is the equal distribution of stress on one side, and happiness on the other. We can play hot/cold in the stress/relax game all we want, but it just won't add up to a sense of fulfillment because we are only dealing with one side of the equation. TWOAll the pleasures of this world can be divided into these two categories.
Would you indulge me for a moment, and partake in a conversation I had with myself. I asked myself this question, and followed the response I got (from myself): Do I think I would change if I saw the splitting of the Red Sea? "Yes, of course." That's the easy answer. But, you have seen movies of the splitting of the Red Sea, and nothing happened? "But that's not real." So. Do we need reality to change? Does an external reality ever make us change? "No, not really. I can hardly think of one time where something happened that made me change!" How many "realities" are we waiting for, that we use as an excuse before we change? "If" this happens, then I will be happy. "If" that happens then I will be more responsible, etc., etc., "If the people around me were only nicer...." "If I had more money...." "If I had a better job...." "If my spouse...." "If my kids...." Are there any excuses I left out? The Jewish people did not leave Egypt because the Red Sea split. It's because they left Egypt that the Red Sea could split. They had to make the first move. Why do we change?
A mirror is only outdone by a TV. And not just when we look good. We simply like seeing ourselves. The most minimalistic of all human endeavors is to feel we are here. This drive can make our day, but it can also ruin it.
The Talmud says that we have to stand up for a rich person. This doesn't mean spiritually rich (who also deserves great respect), it means IRS rich.Que 3: Who is rich today?
Think of this, you just bought a lottery ticket for the grand prize of $250 million. Your number however was one away from the jackpot.Picking the wrong number is a mistake, but it's not a strategic mistake.Que 2: What is my Strategic Mistake?Picking the wrong number is a mistake in information. This is how we tend to look at all our mistakes, that we just didn't have the right information.That kind of thinking is stopping you from growing your business.
If your business is in growth mode, great, if not, you are missing the boat. Success is rarely attained, except after long periods of struggle.If you want to take years, be my guest. These three questions are the short-cut. They compress the struggle into moments, but they are very uncomfortable moments. Question 1: What am I missing? I make you this promise, within three years it will be abundantly clear what you are missing now, and you will kick yourself that you missed something so obvious.There are people who are doing well in this economy, some are doing extremely well. I know because I have spoken to them.
We think we know how to ask for what we need, it seems it’s not as simple as we think…
Beauty is more than skin deep – it’s deep. Thanks to Cory Myers for this one.