So let’s begin. Real communication comes from understanding each other. One of the reasons it’s hard to communicate with a spouse is we just don’t understand them, and without that, it’s going to be hard to understand what on earth they are talking about.
You might be thinking, there is nothing to understand, they are wrong or maybe even maliciously wrong, and that might be true, now and again. But one thing is plainly clear, you have not been able to explain yourself to him.
It’s not that you haven’t tried, it’s that you haven’t been able to say it in words that make sense to him. As we know, this is nowhere near as easy as it sounds, because, just as you don’t understand him and how he thinks, he would say the same about you.
There are seven elements to effective communication, part of what they will achieve is to isolate the issue at hand. A common practice of couples is to try and bring up every issue, every time. You are probably familiar with this phenomena, where soon after an argument starts you find yourself furiously debating every argument you have ever had. As simple as it is to recognize this mess, it’s much harder to solve.
That is, if you don’t employ the seven elements to effective communication. Once you learn these seven principles, you will see for yourself how transforming they are.
This is just the start, stay tuned as we explain more of these principles.