People who make the same mistakes as us are quite pleasant (to us). As an extreme, alcoholics, con artists and geeks all get along great… within their own gene pool. However, they all detest people with other issues.
Since it’s impossible to find anyone that has your exact imperfections, your spouse is very likely to be a constant source of aggravation.
How is that working for you?
But you didn’t click here to read what you already know, you were hoping for a solution. As such, spouses deal with this in one of four ways:
1. Some spouses think there are other people who lucked out and are married to perfect spouses, drats!
2. If I divorce this one, the next one will be perfect.
3. Maybe if I take up golf I won’t mind.
These first three ways are pretty much delusional, and since I hate to leave you hanging without hope, there is a fourth way that turns intolerance into bliss.
To use a martini analogy, it’s one part cracking your husband’s code (what makes men tick) and it’s one part understanding yourself (know your strengths). “Marriage made in Heaven” means that between the two of you there exists the formula to make it all work out.
I wouldn’t say it’s easy, but it is there, and because we are talking about bliss, it’s ultimately worth it.