I know this is extreme, but people who abuse their children don’t think they are doing anything wrong. It may be hard to comprehend, but without a mirror it’s really hard to see what we are doing wrong.
This is a comment I received from a participant of the Bliss Relationship Seminar:
“… You always think you are treating someone okay, that is, until you take a closer look and find out that you are repeating negative cycles that have been handed to you from others, nothing at all like you really want to treat the one you love.
“Thanks to the teacher and the program, we are doing our homework, talking more and quoting tips back and forth until it sticks in both of our heads.”
It’s the original app.
Just like the latest smartphone, it needs more than the software provided. To make that thing shine it needs additional apps. When G-d created humanity it too needed something more than the original design. A (soul) mirror, and that is the basic description of a spouse (Genesis 2:18): “A helper because they stand opposite.”
Just like a mirror works because you stand in front of it and the mirror shows you where you are off, so too a spouse is facing us and can tell what we are doing wrong.
Just as you can see what the people around you are doing wrong, similarly, your spouse can see your issues too.
So unless Silicon Valley comes up with the “soul mirror” app, use the manufactures recommended update and listen to your spouse.
Taking the Bliss Seminar won’t hurt either.