I am going to go out on a limb here, at least one item on your TOBT list is with a person.
And I am going to guess that you feel you have tried every technique there is.
Apart from our constant obsession with confirmed Elvis sightings (sometimes two on the same day) we humans beings have very few faults, if you don’t count the one where we think we have done enough.
It’s Rosh Hashana, time to make a change. It’s a time to make life sweet again, like the apple in the honey. It’s really easier than you think, it used to be that way before you had your TOBT list.
Do you remember what that was like? In those days you used to think nothing would ever get in your way. What happened?
Actually, lots of things got in your way, and just like one of my teenagers on their first day behind the wheel, you really can’t drive through it.
Driving instructors, doctors, dentists, coaches, accountants, engineers, economists, the list goes on and on of people we go to because we just can’t drive through it and we need real advice (OK, maybe discount the economists).
So what happened?
Junk, mostly. We kept hitting obstacles and stopped asking advice in how to get around those obstacles. But more importantly, we lost our humility. We stopped admitting we don’t know what to do, and stopped asking for advice.
There is someone out there who specializes in what you are suffering from just waiting for you to ask. If you are willing to learn from anyone, then your TOBT list will disappear.
Ethics of the Fathers, 4:1: Ben Zoma: "Who is the wise one, the one who learns from everyone."
Now isn’t that sweet.